40th Anniversary Gifts Your Spouse (or Favorite Couple) Will Love

Congrats—you’ve made it to your 40 year wedding anniversary! As you reminisce on all the wonderful years that have passed, celebrate your long-term love (or that of your loved ones) with these 40th anniversary gifts.
by Jessica Tzikas
40th anniversary gifts

A 40 year wedding anniversary is no small feat, so it’s likely everyone from the best friend to the sister-in-law will be looking to gift the long-term couple something extra special. Whether you're the spouse looking to keep things traditional for the 40th anniversary or the friends who want to do something a bit different to commemorate this big celebration, here are some great items to gift each other or the special couple.

What Is the 40 Year Anniversary Gift?

Traditional: Ruby

The 40th wedding anniversary has always been synonymous with the ruby. With the stone's bright red hue, it’s only fitting that rubies symbolize the strong love that's lasted for 40 years. A piece of jewelry with a ruby stone is a great way to keep things traditional, but sticking to the color red also works well here.

Modern: Ruby

Yes, it’s true: The traditional gift for the 40th anniversary has, in fact, not changed at all. If you want to keep things a bit more modern, consider gift ideas that incorporate the ruby, or the color of a ruby, but are modern in their own right. Or stray from tradition completely and get your loved one a gift they'll truly enjoy.


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40 Year Anniversary Gift Ideas for Her

She's celebrated many anniversaries in the past, so it may be difficult to find a gift that she'll not only love, but that's different from gifts given at previous wedding anniversaries. If she isn’t a fan of rubies, don’t try too hard to make the traditional gift item stick. Instead, look for something she'll uniquely love, like a cozy bathrobe or some classic home décor.

  1. Black leather overnight bag

    Are you taking a big trip for your 40th wedding anniversary? Or even simply spending your weekends traveling to see your kids? Either way, you’re going to need a sturdy overnight bag. This one is gorgeous and made with the finest leather, so it'll stay intact forever.  

    Cuyana Le Sud overnight, $215, Cuyana.com

  2. Gold birthstone bracelets

    A birthstone is a great way to give something personal without being too over the top. These birthstone bracelets are the perfect blend of dainty and show-stopping and can be worn to a fancy anniversary dinner or a day of running errands.

    Stella Valle birthstone bracelet, $45, MarkandGraham.com

  3. Gray and white waffle slippers

    In our opinion, comfort is always key, and no wardrobe is complete without a comfy pair of slippers. These fit the bill and have a rubber grip, so you can wear them around the house without the fear of slipping.

    Parachute waffle slippers, $29, ParachuteHome.com


    40 Year Anniversary Gift Ideas for Him

    We love the symbolism of the deep red ruby pairing with the deep love of a 40th wedding anniversary. But gifting the man in your life something to fit the tradition can actually be quite difficult. If red just isn’t his color, consider these gifts instead.

  4. Home Depot gift card

    There's certainty nothing wrong with gifting something tried-and-true that you know will always put a smile on his face. If your loved one is super handy or even in a “Let’s fix everything!” phase, he'll love a gift card to Home Depot.

    Home Depot gift card, various price ranges, HomeDepot.com

  5. Marble and gold wine and bottle openers

    Whether your loved one is whipping up signature cocktails or simply opening bottles of beer, everyone needs the right bar tools to get the job done. These are both gorgeous and practical.

    West Elm marble bar tools, $19, WestElm.com

  6. Pair of beer glasses

    Looking to gift a beer drinker? Consider these beer glasses. Better than the traditional glass, these are made to enhance aromas and tastes and provide the ultimate beer experience. Need we say more?

    History Company “Teku” world’s greatest beer glass, $39, Amazon.com

  7. Silver cuff links

    Commemorate the 40th anniversary with gorgeous cuff links he can treasure forever. These are sleek, sophisticated and super affordable.

    The Tie Bar Bricked, $20, TheTieBar.com

  8. Silver gas grill

    Looking to splurge a bit this anniversary? There’s no better way to do it than with a gorgeous gas grill. This one has four burners, a large cooling area and tons of features any grill master will love.

    Weber Summit S-470 gas grill, $2,149, Amazon.com


    40 Year Anniversary Gift Ideas for Them

    So, you want to commemorate this big milestone for your loved ones, but you’re not quite sure what gift measures up? Don’t worry—the gifts below will please all couples, whether they love to cook or love to play.

  9. Marble circular cutting board

    This cutting board is so chic, it almost looks unusable. But, in fact, it’s food safe, handmade and optimized for cutting even your most stubborn items. Plus, it’ll look great in your kitchen when it’s not in use.

    BIDKhome Lady Purple marble round cutting board, $22, Wayfair.com

  10. The Container Store gift card

    The Container Store has everything from closet storage to kitchen supplies, so it’s a great gift for pretty much everyone. Their online gift card service makes it super easy too, allowing you to pick a card design, enter an amount and deliver your card digitally right away.

    The Container Store gift card, various price ranges, ContainerStore.com

  11. Colorful leather backgammon sets

    Does the couple in your life love to play board games? Gift them a classic with this leather backgammon set. Not only is it functional, but it’s a stunning home décor addition too.

    Scully & Scully leather backgammon set, $1,395, ScullyandScully.com

  12. Teal flower pot

    Have a gardener in your life? This personalized flower pot is a great addition to their garden or interior home décor. Add their favorite flower to the pot for added personalization.

    Shutterfly foliage frame flower pot, $35, Shutterfly.com

  13. Banana and chocolate croissant

    Have a friend who doesn’t necessarily love to cook but definitely loves to eat? Take the hard work out by gifting them delicious already-made food instead. These croissants by Le Marsais Bakery in San Francisco are a favorite among many and a great way to celebrate the anniversary morning.

    Le Marsais Bakery banana and chocolate croissant, $60, Williams-Sonoma.com


    Ruby Anniversary Gifts for Her

    A ruby is a delicate gem that sends a fiery message. If this sounds like your loved one, consider sticking with tradition this 40 year anniversary and gifting them something ruby-related.

  14. Black cashmere scarf

    This lightweight scarf is made of 100 percent Scottish cashmere and will last you through every season for years to come. Layer it with sweaters in winter or place it over your shoulders for a chilly summer evening.

    Cuyana lightweight cashmere scarf, $190, Cuyana.com

  15. Ruby and gold ring

    This ring is the perfect dainty staple she can wear every single day, and the simply ruby element makes it extra special for the 40 year anniversary.

    Satomi Kawakita The Tiniest Ring in ruby, $210, CarbirdNYC.com

  16. Ruby cotton robe

    Incorporate ruby the cozy way with this classic cotton robe. 

    Land’s End women’s petite supima cotton robe, $65, LandsEnd.com

  17. Red lipstick

    You can never go wrong with a classic red lip, so why not gift her a ruby red color from the lipstick pros? This one is long wearing and has a matte finish, so it'll last through dinners, anniversary celebrations and beyond.

    MAC Cosmetics retro matte lipstick in Ruby Woo, $19, MACCosmetics.com

  18. Red slipper with butterfly

    Make a statement with these tropical ruby slippers. They're leather-lined for tons of support and comfort and have a bit of a heel for ladies who want a little extra height.

    Stubbs & Wootton tropical women slipper, $450, StubbsandWootton.com

  19. Michael Kors sexy ruby perfume

    If we had to pick one gift to truly fit with the 40 year anniversary, this would be it. The name itself just screams 40th anniversary, but the scent is where it really shines: raspberry and apricot combined with rose petal and Indian jasmine sambac. Yes, please.

    Michael Kors Sexy Ruby eau du parfum, $112, Macys.com


    Ruby Anniversary Gifts for Him

    Buying a ruby anniversary gift for him is difficult, but it’s certainly not impossible. Whether you want to splurge for an actual ruby or simply find something to match the color scheme, here are gifts he's sure to love.

  20. Ruby signet ring in gold

    If he appreciates the finer things in life, he'll love this ruby ring in 22k gold. The vintage look is complimented by the gorgeous ruby in the center and will make a statement no matter where he goes.

    David Yurman Shipwreck signet ring with ruby in 22k gold, from $3,900, DavidYurman.com

  21. Burgundy cordovan bluchers

    We're big fans of the classic black dress shoe, but why not help him spruce up his wardrobe a bit with these ruby colored bluchers? With these, even the simplest outfit is instantly jazzed up.

    Peal & Co. cordovan bluchers, $998, BrooksBrothers.com

  22. Burgundy tie

    A good red tie is an easy way to add a little life to an outfit. Pair it with the classic white shirt and black suit or bring some energy to a night out by pairing it with your favorite casual button down.

    The Tie Bar dotted spin tie in burgundy, $19, TheTieBar.com

  23. Pocket square in burgundy

    Go a bit further by gifting this pocket square to match the tie above. Wear them together for a clean look or separate them to add pops of color to any outfit.

    The Tire Bar dotted spin pocket square in burgundy, $10, TheTieBar.com


    Ruby Anniversary Gifts for Them

    Add a little color to their lives and stick to the 40 year wedding anniversary tradition by gifting items made in hues of ruby and red.

  24. Acrylic pitcher in ruby

    Summer parties aren't complete without the ultimate pitcher to serve lemonade, iced tea and favorite summer cocktails. This one will look gorgeous on the patio or on the kitchen counter.

    Mario Luca Giusti Pallina acrylic pitcher in ruby, $68, GraciousStyle.com

  25. Red chenille throw

    This throw is so soft, your couple may never leave their couch. The ruby red color adds a deep rich element to any home and can be used seasonally or year-round.

    Pier 1 red chenille throw, $40, Pier1.com

  26. Rectangular rim serving platter in red

    Neutral-hued kitchens have been a trend for so long now that we're almost trained to stay away from color. Luckily, that’s changing, and trends are leaning back toward pops of color, especially in shades of red. This serving tray is the perfect addition and a great way to help them bring color to their kitchen.

    Real Simple rectangular rim serving platter in red, $15, BedBathandBeyond.com

  27. Ruby fractal glass jar candle holder

    Have candle lovers on your hands? Spruce up your candle gift by adding a holder. This one fits the bill with its ruby color, and the fractal glass will add a hint of whimsy to their home.

    Yankee Candle ruby fractal glass jar candle holder, $13, YankeeCandle.com

  28. Mr. and Mrs. 14 oz coffee mug set

    Bring a little fun to their morning coffee with these matching coffee mugs. Just because they’ve been married for 40 years doesn’t mean they can’t still relish in their married titles!

    BeatheLifeCraft Mr. and Mrs. 14 oz coffee mug set, $20, Etsy.com

  29. Red tumblers

    If your couple loves to entertain, consider getting them something to use during a party. These highball tumblers are great for everything from iced tea to mojitos.

    Houzz bubble highball tumblers set of 4 in red, $60, Houzz.com


    For more of the best anniversary gift ideas for all the major milestones, check out our comprehensive guide to anniversary gifts by year.

  30. Traditional & Modern Anniversary Gifts by Year



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