Remarriage: Wedding Invitations for Second Marriages?

Q: We're getting married in July and this will be the second marriage for both of us. When I mentioned wedding invitations to my mother, she was appalled that I was even considering them. She said that you don't send wedding invites when you remarry -- that it's the same as asking for a wedding gift. Is this true? I don't care about gifts -- I just want everyone to know I've found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!

A: How will people know to come to your wedding if you don't send an invitation? It's true that second weddings are often less formal -- perhaps you won't choose ecru paper with engraved script, for instance. But you'll still want to send nice, official invitations to your guests. Also know that an invite itself is not a hint that you want a gift! If you feel strongly about guests not buying presents, feel free to include the words, "Your presence is your present" or something to that effect on your invite.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot