Multicultural Wedding Planning Advice From 20 Real Newlyweds
No matter where you're from or what you believe in, weddings are always sacred events, often filled to the bring with meaningful rituals. But how do you plan a wedding and combine cultures when you and your partner have varied heritage? That's where multicultural wedding planning comes in—arguably, combining two (or more) different cultures or religions into one celebratory union can make a wedding day that much more special.
Researching wedding traditions around the world, especially the rituals most commonly celebrated in your culture, is a straightforward first step in planning a multicultural wedding. Additionally, sometimes it helps to see what other couples have done. Below, see how 20 couples incorporated cultural traditions into their own fusion weddings to honor their families' heritage and each other. While you may hail from a different culture than these married couples, these real-life examples of multicultural fusion weddings are sure to inspire you. Plus, keep reading for expert-approved top multicultural wedding ideas and tips.
In this story:
- How Real Couples Planned a Multicultural Wedding
- Tips for a Fusion-Forward Fete
- How to Find Multicultural Wedding Vendors
How Real Couples Planned a Multicultural Wedding
Marrying into a different culture? As you're planning your own multicultural wedding ideas, take a look at a few real-life ideas. Here, 20 real couples open up about how they blended cultures in their wedding to honor their heritage.
Washington, DC, Wedding With Christian, Jewish, Guyanese and Indigenous Traditions
Their Backgrounds: Karen and Jordan's wedding in Washington, DC, incorporated all their diff erent cultures and backgrounds. "There was a mix of American, Christian, Jewish, Guyanese, Afro-Guyanese, Indo-Guyanese and Indigenous traditions throughout," the couple says.
How They Combined Cultures: "By getting married, we are committing to building a home together, which incorporates pieces of both of us." As such, the couple prioritized multiculturalism to mark "the beginning of our life together and who we are as a couple."
At their interfaith ceremony, they "chose the traditions that had the most meaning to us and tried to blend them into a cohesive ceremony," says Karen. It included the Jewish seven blessings, a New Testament reading and the exchange of malas (flower garlands) to honor Indo-Guyanese culture.
The couple's far-reaching inspirations extended to their favors. As a nod to Afro- Guyanese culture, they gave each attendee a mini black cake, which is a type of rum cake traditional to Caribbean weddings. "It was soaked in rum for several months and was a huge hit," says the couple.
Karen and Jordan were just as thoughtful about the traditions they skipped. "There are a couple that we chose not to include, partly because some of the 'traditional' customs are geared toward heterosexual couples," notes Karen. "Some traditions we (and our rabbi) adapted to be more inclusive, such as changing the language in our ketubah to be less gendered."
Their Best Planning Advice: Ultimately, it was important to them that "all of our traditions blended together the way we want them to fuse as we build a home together."
Filipino and Burmese Customs Filled This New York Wedding
Their Backgrounds: Rosalee and Soe are both Asian American immigrants; Rosalee is from the Philippines and Soe from Myanmar. After settling in the United States when they were young, the duo met during a college study abroad trip to Singapore. "Soe and I bonded through our shared first-generation experiences. We spent years seeking that balance to maintain our cultural heritage while living in modern America," says Rosalee. For their New York City wedding, they wanted to blend and honor elements from the four cultures that are part of their relationship: American, Filipino, Burmese and Singaporean.
How They Combined Cultures: Their wedding ceremony included the Filipino cord and veil tradition, in addition to the wearing of jasmine garlands, which is part of Burmese culture. However, much of the structure of the wedding reflected Western culture. Rosalee explains, "There were many cultural traditions we chose to forgo. As much as we are proud of our Asian heritage, we also strongly identify with modern American culture and wanted our wedding to reflect that perspective."
"Our wedding was also the first time our parents and extended family met. It was important to share different aspects of our culture with each other's family. Both sets of parents were first-generation immigrants who moved to the United States with minimal resources," says Rosalee. "In our speech, we thanked our parents for their journey to fulfill the American dream and asked them to see our wedding as a product of their hard work and sacrifices."
Their Best Planning Advice: Focusing on supporting vendors who share your cultural heritage is an amazing way to bring authentic multiculturalism into your wedding. Rosalee and Soe prioritized hiring a caterer with expertise in Southeast Asian cooking. "It wasn't easy finding a company that specializes in that cuisine, especially one owned by a Burmese woman," recalls Rosalee. "Saffron 59 was not originally on our venue's preferred vendor list, but their team made an exception for our wedding." Highlights from the meal included laphet thoke, fermented tea-leaf rice balls common in Myanmar, and lechon, a slow-roasted pork dish that's a staple in the Philippines. For dessert, the couple paid homage to their fateful meeting in Singapore with pandan-cream-flavored wedding cake.
SoCal Wedding Filled With Baha'i, Persian and Jewish Heritage
Their Backgrounds: For their wedding in California, Haleh and Adam thoughtfully meshed their Baha'i, Persian, Jewish and Protestant heritages.
How They Combined Cultures: The ceremony was mainly Baha'i with elements of Adam's Protestant and Jewish background. "The Baha'i faith is naturally inclusive and believes in the oneness of religion and mankind, so it was easy to incorporate our families' traditions," Haleh says. "A Baha'i wedding is a simple ceremony with a 10-word vow exchange. The couple is free to embellish, so we had prayers and readings." A close friend emceed and explained each part to guests. The couple also included a candle-lighting ceremony that Adam's parents had at their wedding before ending with the Jewish glass breaking.
A tea station (a special request from Haleh's mom) was a key way that they celebrated Haleh's Persian heritage. "My mom found the most beautiful way to display the tea with an array of traditional desserts and fruits," Haleh says. "Everyone absolutely loved it."
Their Best Planning Advice: Rather than being concerned about breaking with the traditions of old, feel free to embrace new blended traditions in your wedding. The couple recalls that their multicultural wedding didn't feel like "we were breaking traditions, but as if we were creating new ones."
Bahamian-Honduran Multicultural Wedding in San Francisco, California
Their Backgrounds: Kiara is ethnically Cuban, Colombian and Polish but born and raised in the Bahamas, while Arles is Honduran.
How They Combined Cultures: Kiara and Arles scentscaped their wedding to connect themselves and their guests with their heritage by infusing it with a sweet tobacco and incense smell. For the ceremony, Kiara and Arles made sure to include religion since it's important to them and their families. "We are both Catholic, so it was a unifying element for us when we married in the Saint Ignatius Church in San Francisco. We had a Catholic Mass, communion and the kneeling prayers to Mary," Kiara says. They also involved their Latin American heritage in the ceremony by doing las arras, a lasso ceremony and having readings in both English and Spanish.
The couple also participated in a shared veil or mantilla ceremony, a ritual with Spanish roots. The mantilla is a long white lace veil that's traditionally draped on the bride's head and groom's shoulder by two female family members of the bride and groom, typically the couple's mothers, as they kneel before the altar during the Catholic Mass. The white mantilla symbolizes the pureness of marriage, while the ceremony as a whole, represents the couple being united by love.
For the reception, they kicked off the party with a cocktail hour that revolved around Kiara's Cuban and Bahamian background. We had a cigar bar and cigar rollers, island cocktails, and a photo booth with island props. "I didn't want a wedding cake, so my mother brought a traditional island pastry, guava duff, from home instead. My husband's family really wanted a pastel (a traditional Latino dessert) or a cake, so they gifted us a wedding cake as well," Kiara says. Culturally in Honduras, favors are a big part of the departure from events, so Arles' family made custom miniature statues so Kiara and Arles could give them as wedding favors. Finally, to connect to Kiara's Polish roots, they did the dollar dance. Kiara wore her aunt's wedding apron with babies on it, which represents fertility.
Their Best Planning Advice: "The small details matter, even if it's just for you, bring them in," advises the couple. "You will remember those details. Overall, leaning into bilingual elements throughout the wedding was so important for us and for all family members to feel welcome."
Brazilian-American Fusion Wedding in Paraty, Brazil
Their Backgrounds: Daniela is Brazilian-American and Jamie is American.
How They Combined Cultures: "We had about 100 guests at our wedding, 70 of them were English speakers, but we wanted the ceremony to be both in English and Portuguese," explains Daniela."My brother did a reading in English, and Jamie's uncle, who had been living in Rio de Janeiro for decades, did a reading in Portuguese. We also had samba dancers come during the Festa à Fantasia (a traditional element in Brazilian wedding receptions) to show off the culture and excitement of Brazil."
Their Best Planning Advice: "Trust your vendors, especially if you decide on a destination wedding," advises Daniela."They're the professionals, and if you invested in them, trust them to throw you an epic event. Don't worry if everything doesn't go to plan. Most guests would never know if something went wrong or didn't show up."
Korean-Vietnamese Multicultural Wedding in Malibu, California
Their Backgrounds: Joan is Korean and Nghi is Vietnamese.
How They Combined Cultures: Alcohol is an integral part of Vietnamese weddings, especially cognac. Traditionally during dinner, the newlyweds go to each table to thank and welcome their guests. This custom is called chào bàn, which translates to a greeting table. Many couples take shots of cognac or play drinking games with their young guests. Joan and Nghi included this tradition in their multicultural wedding. "One of our favorite parts of our wedding was the cart with Hennessy XO shots. We went around each table and took shots with our family and friends. It was so fun and a great time for us to mingle with our guests."
Their Best Planning Advice: "Having a wedding planner makes life much easier for the couple. I know wedding planning can be stressful, but just meet your partner halfway on certain things and ask yourself, is it worth it in the end," the couple says.
Jewish-Chinese Fusion Wedding in Somerset, Virginia
Their Backgrounds: Eric is Jewish and Lucy is Chinese.
How They Combined Cultures: "During our first look, we ate noodles and drank shots of tequila to represent longevity and celebrate two families becoming one according to Chinese traditions. Then, during the ceremony, we worked with the venue and our florist to decorate a chuppah with a modern twist," the couple says.
While certain wedding traditions are lucky in your culture, there's a possibility those same traditions are unlucky in your partner's culture. Eric and Lucy dealt with that scenario at their wedding, but here's how they handled it seamlessly. "At the end of the ceremony, we stepped on 'glass' for the Jewish tradition or bubble wrap in our case, since it is unlucky to break glass during the wedding day in Chinese culture. Finally, our favorite part of our wedding was being lifted in chairs during 'Hava Nagila,' and being able to celebrate with our friends and family," Lucy says.
Their Best Planning Advice: "Our advice is to make this day your own," says the couple. "Your wedding is a special day when your friends and family come together to celebrate your love. It meant so much to us to show our guests how we brought two cultures together, and they were able to be there to celebrate us and have a great time. Another piece of advice is to splurge on the areas that are the most important to you. For us, this was the photographer, venue, music, and hair and makeup. Then we cut back on the other areas if needed."
Lutheran-Hindu Multicultural Wedding in Water Mill, New York
Their Backgrounds: Robert is Lutheran and Angeli is Hindu.
How They Combined Cultures: Before the main wedding ceremony, Angeli and Robert decided to have their Indian sangeet and mehndi ceremony on the same night before their wedding. For the main multicultural wedding ceremony, they had two faith leaders, a Lutheran priest and a Hindu representative. "We chose certain elements from each faith and then had rituals based on that element. For example, fire. In Hindu weddings, there is a sacred Indian ritual called saath phere. Then for the Lutheran ritual right after, we had our moms come up and light a unity candle. Alternating these traditions felt equal and inclusive. Something I hadn't seen done in any other interfaith wedding."
Their Best Planning Advice: "Start hair and makeup and photography early. People said this to me, but I didn't think we would need so many hours. We could have used more. But even bigger and something I regret now is I let the weather get me down. If you're going to have your wedding outdoors, my advice is to be okay with the rain. Prepare yourself emotionally for it," Angeli says.
Hindu-Quaker Fusion Wedding in Bolinas, California
Their Backgrounds: Anamika is Hindu and Jean is Quaker.
How They Combined Cultures: "We had many influences that converged into a loose theme that I'll call 'California nature meets Indian tradition meets Handmade.' These influences included the gorgeous California coastal setting, our favorite birds of Bolinas (hummingbirds and cranes), my Indian heritage, Jean's Quaker heritage, and all the artistic influences in our lives. Our theme was a strange yet harmonious combination of these elements," Anamika says. Because of the pandemic, the couple didn't have a large wedding or a sangeet. "The one part of Indian weddings I did miss was the sangeet night, but my little sister surprised us by organizing a virtual sangeet in which she compiled songs, dances and speeches from our families and put in an awesome video for us to watch. To top it off, my mom ordered us Indian food and champagne that night," Anamika says.
For the wedding ceremony, Anamika wore a pink-and-gold silk wedding sari with a gold netted pallu and spent hours with her mom on Zoom learning how to tie the sari correctly.
Their Best Planning Advice: "Our tip is to plan things in a way to maximize flexibility. You never know what may change these days, so make sure you have contingency plans. For example, with our caterer, we made sure she could be nimble and plan a last-minute dinner in the park in case our venue fell through. Ensuring flexibility minimizes stress," Jean says.
Armenian-Vietnamese Multicultural Wedding in San Diego, California
Their Backgrounds: David is Armenian and Erica is Vietnamese.
How They Combined Cultures: "We wanted to honor both of our cultures, so before dinner, we said a prayer in Armenian, which was led by the same Armenian priest who held our separate religious ceremony for our immediate family. We also surprised our guests with a lion dance, which is a tradition many Vietnamese weddings start their receptions with. However, rather than it being our grand entrance to the reception, we snuck away after the cake cutting to change into traditional Vietnamese wedding attire for a surprise performance with 4 'lions' and a drum ensemble," Erica says.
For the lion dance surprise, Erica changed into an áo dài, which is traditional Vietnamese wedding attire with a tunic worn over pants and a headpiece.
Their Best Planning Advice: "Figure out how you both prefer to plan. A little bit each day? Longer chunks of dedicated time? Getting on the same page early on will go a long way," Erica advises.
Jewish-Venezuelan Fusion Wedding in Leesburg, Virginia
Their Backgrounds: Susannah is Jewish and Gustavo is Venezuelan.
How They Combined Cultures: "We were married under a chuppah, that's been used for decades in the Eig family, and our ceremony included a Catholic las arras and a hand-fasting ritual. During the reception, we drank from a German wedding cup, danced the Jewish hora and ended the evening with la hora loca, a Latin 'crazy hour.' We also recited our vows in English and Spanish since many of our guests were only fluent in one language."
Their Best Planning Advice: "Enjoy every moment of the process; it goes by so fast, you can't even imagine. If possible, say hello to every guest at the wedding. You won't regret spending a moment with every person, and it will be so special for them," the couple urges.
German-Nigerian Multicultural Wedding in Midlothian, Virginia
Their Backgrounds: Althea is German and Seyi is Nigerian.
How They Combined Cultures: After the ceremony, the guests joined the couple outside for a traditional German log cutting. The tradition of cutting a log at the wedding represents the first obstacle the couple will overcome in their marriage. Althea and Seyi used a decorative long saw with two handles as their friends and family watched and cheered them on. During the reception, Althea and Seyi re-entered in traditional Nigerian wedding attire and participated in the Nigerian money spray dance.
Scottish-Persian Fusion Wedding in Dallas, Texas
Their Backgrounds: Emilia is Iranian-American with a Persian background and Calum is Scottish.
How They Combined Cultures: The wedding ceremony featured Persian wedding traditions such as a sofreh and the sugar cone ceremony. The women wedding guests rubbed two sugar cones together while bridesmaids held a mesh cloth above Calum and Emilia's heads. The sugar falling from grinding sugar cones represented the women's wishes for sweetness in the couple's life. To honor Calum's Scottish heritage, he wore his family heirloom Gunn tartan kilt. The kilt has been in his family for generations and was passed from Calum's grandfather to Calum and his brothers. Calum wore also wore a sporran and his kilt shoes.
Their Best Planning Advice: "As Emilia said in her wedding vows, what we have together is enough. Keep it simple," Calum says.
Chinese-Sri Lankan Multicultural Wedding in Rancho Palos Verdes, California
Their Backgrounds: Tony is Chinese-American and Arthika is Sri Lankan-American.
How They Combined Cultures: "One of our favorite wedding personalizations was probably the hand-calligraphed chopstick holder name cards that contained our wedding favor, a set of golden chopsticks for future dumpling nights. We also hired an amazing team of lion dancers for the event that blew everyone away. Our custom dessert trio was also a perfect fusion of Tony's and my cultures, and all of them tasted amazing despite being unique requests. Vattalappam from Sri Lanka, egg tarts from China, and chai panna cotta for our shared love of panna cotta after visits to Italy together," Arthika says. This is a perfect example of why you shouldn't be afraid of including other cultures in your wedding as long they are significant to you and your partner.
Their Best Planning Advice: "If you can make it through planning the wedding of both your dreams, you can make it through almost anything in life together. You've just got to maintain perspective, and that's what your partner is for," Arthika says.
Guamanian-Nigerian Fusion Wedding in Leesburg, Virginia
Their Backgrounds: Joe is Guamanian and Vanessa is Nigerian.
How They Combined Cultures: For the Nigerian wedding traditions, the couple did the money-spraying custom, the bride's family offered kola nuts to the groom's family and the bride changed into a traditional gold Nigerian lace dress (known as aso oke) during the reception for the Nigerian dance portion. For the Guamanian (and Chamorro) traditions, the couple hired Guamanian dance performers, provided shell leis for guests to wear at the reception and did money pinning for the bride and groom.
Since Joe is a part of the military, he wore a dress mess uniform. He also honored his 17 family members who were currently serving or veterans and passed military challenge coins to those veterans.
Their Best Planning Advice: "If most of your guests are coming from out of town, try to make it a memorable experience. The majority of our guests were from out of state, so we wanted them to feel like they were having an experience or mini-vacation. On Friday we had a welcome reception that all guests were invited to, not just the wedding party and family as you would for a rehearsal dinner. Our DJ was there to play music and get a feel for what would resonate with our guests for the big day, which was great. The venue was a resort, so anyone staying on the property could go to the pool, visit a winery or play golf before the reception started in the evening," the couple recommends.
Pakistani-Chinese Multicultural Wedding in Portland, Oregon
Their Backgrounds: Misbah is Pakistani and Frank is Chinese.
How They Combined Cultures: "Red is a lucky color in Chinese culture, so we made sure to include it in our wedding. Reds and pinks are also often included in Pakistani culture, so I wore a red lehenga to represent that. To add a personalized cultural aspect to our wedding, we had a Chinese tea ceremony the morning of our wedding to include Frank's culture. Two days before our wedding, we also hosted a mehndi ceremony to tie in my culture. Both events included family and friends from both sides of our family," Misbah says.
Their Best Planning Advice: The couple suggests other to-be-weds work with a multicultural wedding planner. "The best thing we did was get a wedding planner for the day of our wedding and then some. I think it was important to do this detail because we wanted to tie together two different cultures and were very detail-oriented," Misbah says.
Hindu-Chinese Fusion Wedding in Colwood, British Columbia
Their Backgrounds: Ashlyn is Hindu and Darren is Chinese.
How They Combined Cultures: For their fusion wedding, the happy couple had a Chinese tea ceremony before their Hindu wedding ceremony and prayer. During the wedding ceremony, the bride wore an Indian lehenga and henna.
Their Best Planning Advice: "Our best advice is to do it as a team. You would be surprised how your opinion can change after you hear the vision and inspiration of your partner," the couple says. "Wedding planning can be a lot of work with added stress to your daily life, so trying to make it fun can at least curb some of that. Plus, doing it as two people allows you to have dividable responsibility."
Catholic-Hindu Multicultural Wedding in Detriot, Michigan
Their Backgrounds: Brianna is Catholic and Pavan is Hindu.
How They Combined Cultures: "Leading up to the wedding weekend, I had a small mehndi party with close family on both sides. Our actual wedding day included a Catholic ceremony in the morning followed by the Hindu ceremony and reception. We decorated a Detroit pedicab to carry Pavan into his baraat. Finally, Indian weddings are known for bright, vibrant colors; therefore, we incorporated that into our flowers and table settings," Brianna says.
Their Best Planning Advice: "As cliché as this sounds, your wedding day goes by in a blink of an eye. With your partner, give yourself pause and grace to soak in the absolute joy of being surrounded by friends and family to witness your wedding day. Don't sweat the small stuff. At the end of the day, no one remembers those little details that drove you crazy. And, most importantly, have fun," Brianna suggests.
Christian-Hindu Multicultural Wedding in Baltimore, Maryland
Their Backgrounds: Aimee is Christian and Ayush is Hindu.
How They Combined Cultures: "We blended traditions from both cultures and religions, including a baraat (on a Baltimore water taxi), Hindu ceremony, Indian luncheon, Christian ceremony, followed by a reception that included a mini Sangeet. Ayush and I even surprised our guests at the reception with a choreographed Bollywood dance to 'Jalebi Baby' by Jason Derulo and Tescher," says Aimee. "We used the Ludwig leaf in particular as a design element to bring our fusion concept to life. Some other notable design features of our wedding included a mandap draped in vibrant flowers for the Hindu ceremony."
Their Best Planning Advice: "The biggest advice we have is to relax and enjoy the wedding planning process. The day will go by so fast, so there's no point stressing the small stuff," the couple encourages.
German-Chinese Fusion Wedding in La Jolla, California
Their Backgrounds: Jordan is German and Beverly is Chinese.
How They Combined Cultures: "To honor my Chinese and Malaysian culture, it was important for me to incorporate a Chinese tea ceremony to invite our family to partake in and learn the tradition and beautiful meaning behind it. To honor my husband's German roots, we opted for a unity ceremony with a German beer and Coca-Cola, a drink we enjoyed on a previous trip to Munich," Beverly says.
Their Best Planning Advice: "Our advice for engaged couples is to make those connections while seeking out your vendors. People in the wedding industry still recovering and bouncing back from the pandemic. Take the time to research and get to know the person behind the business," Beverly says. "Once you find them, trust them wholeheartedly! These vendors you choose with intention will be people who pour their heart and soul into their craft and want the very best for you. They know what they're doing and what works for your wedding."
Tips for a Fusion-Forward Fete
Hosting a multicultural wedding can be challenging, but not impossible. To guide you, trusted fusion wedding expert Kim DeBose, lead planner and founder of Curated By Kim Weddings and Events in New Haven, Connecticut, shares top-notch planning tips everyone can use.
Have the Budget Talk ASAP
Over more than seven years planning multicultural weddings, DeBose has noticed that wedding budget planning is often the first unexpected trial for couples. Many to-be-weds who are marrying into a new culture "can't understand the inflated budget" compared to what they expected. People forget some cultures have numerous ceremonies over a long period, which adds up to more dollar signs. "You should discuss your budget with key stakeholders and a planner to get a realistic idea about what you'll spend based on your vision and circumstances," DeBose adds.
Hire Culturally Proficient Pros
"Work with professional wedding vendors experienced with your culture," advises DeBose. "They need to have stamina and be able to integrate themselves in what's happening." She also notes that you need vendors who will be receptive to feedback. As such, it's crucial to partner with a planner and officiant who know the ins and outs of your and your future spouse's cultures so they can help you weave important rituals and your love story into the wedding.
Educate Your Partner and Their Family
Explain to loved ones from both sides of the aisle what's expected of them for the wedding, to prevent unnecessary confusion and drama. "Ensure they understand each step in the process. Together you can choose which customs you want to opt in or out of," DeBose says.
Don't Forget to Incorporate Your Guests
For couples hosting a wedding with traditions unfamiliar to most guests, DeBose strongly suggests including descriptive signs or programs. "I've had clients provide a ceremony program so guests can see the steps and background of the customs," she notes. This extra detail helps your loved ones grasp what's going on and have more respect for the cultures on display.
Be Patience
As with all weddings, planning is a marathon, not a sprint. "You'll need to take breaks as you go," DeBose says. As a final piece of advice, she emphasizes that each event is its own affair, so take it one step at a time. As long as you're receptive to your loved ones' suggestions and help (while still ensuring your wants and needs are met), you're on the right path to pulling off a beautiful fusion celebration.
How to Find Multicultural Wedding Vendors
Whether you're looking for a multicultural wedding DJ or wedding venues that'll accommodate your fusion wedding, a great place to start your search is on The Knot Vendor Marketplace. The Diversity Filters on The Knot Vendor Marketplace allow you to search for pros near you who self-identify as Asian-owned, Native American-owned, Black-owned, Pacific Islander-owned, Hispanic- and Latinx-owned, Veteran-owned, woman-owned and LGBTQ+-owned. Additionally, there are other filters to help you find the best multicultural wedding ceremony and reception vendors, like catering filters for halal, vegan and kosher businesses as well as officiant filters based on a wide array of religious practices. In short, it's never been easier to find multicultural wedding pros who fit your unique needs and priorities.
Additional reporting by Hannah Nowack