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Updated Mar 06, 2025A Guide for Writing a Letter to Your Wife on Your Wedding Day
Channel your inner cupid.
There are so many last-minute things to cover leading up to your nuptials. But taking a sec to write a special note to your fiancé is totally worth it and, if you can't find the words, we've composed a guide on writing a letter to your wife on your wedding day. You probably haven't had more than a few minutes to tell each other how excited you are to make things official, so stealing away to put pen to paper will give you time to reflect on your love. And as soon as your bride-to-be takes a peek at what you've written, she's going to gush and melt, then pull herself together and wick away the tears before running down the aisle (yes, she's that pumped, we promise).
If you're feeling a little freaked out because your bride is usually the one who has a way with words, don't worry, we've gathered some helpful hints to take you from apprehensive author to confident composer. Remember, your soon-to-be wife won't be sharing this with anyone (unless you've both decided to read a few lines aloud for your videographer), so you can be as passionate or lovey-dovey as you'd like. Regardless, it'll surely make her melt.
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Wedding Day Letter to Your Wife Sample Template
Keep the following tips top of mind when you're writing and don't be afraid to get personal or show some vulnerability. If you've chosen to write your own vows, you'll be sharing them with an audience, but your love letter can (and, dare we say, should) be private, so if being a little comedic helps lighten the mood, do it. If you're comfortable only when you're complimenting someone else, then, by all means, hype up your love and tell her how stunning she'll be on the day you've been counting down to forever. And if you need to activate a little #somethingborrowed on your own end, feel free to pluck some lines from the works of your partner's favorite poet, pop star or playwright—you have our blessing!
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1. A Sweet Hello
You might be tempted to go to romantic extremes, addressing your bride as "My Beloved," but we say go with what feels natural. If she's always been your babe or pretty girl, she'll be those things on your wedding day and all the days that follow. So, begin your letter with that sentiment. If she's one for social media trends, then think about her reaction to opening a letter with pics of the two of you as babies and thought bubbles that say, "Who will my bride be?" over yours and "Me, silly!" over hers. The day has finally come to embrace those new titles, so why not start her off with a smile.
2. The Reasons You Love Her
If your engagement kicked off with these reasons as part of your proposal, she already has a pretty solid idea of how much you love her. But, hey, flattery is good for the soul and it'll certainly make her giddy as she finishes getting ready and starts preparing for those all-important "I do"s. Now, when we say the reasons why you love her, obviously you can reference what everyone in your family and circle of friends knows—that she's kind (almost to a fault), that she's thoughtful, that she's ambitious and/or impossibly stubborn. But we're bigger fans of the specific reasons why she's stolen your heart from here to eternity. Perhaps she's the only one who has ever (and we mean ever) cajoled you into a karaoke debut and, not only that, but a duet. Maybe a waft of her signature scent is all you need to turn a bad day around. Or, better yet, maybe the way she hustles in her career or how compassionately she treats her colleagues and supports junior staff is the example you care to aspire to. Tell her all the things you adore about her, because you know she's going to blush.
3. Your Favorite Memory of the Past
Taking a little walk down memory lane with a letter to your bride on your wedding day is every bit appropriate. You've been through a lot together, you've experienced some of the highest highs in your life and also some of the lowest lows, but it's what got you here. So, have fun reminiscing about the time she was relentless in her pursuit of Mario Kart 1st-place trophies (usurping you of your title). Let her know that you have a stained recipe saved from the night you two cooked together for the first time and you sliced your finger open cutting avocados for your birria tacos. And remind her that you fell in love with her fast and furiously—it wasn't because you couldn't wait to see her after every date, but because you couldn't possibly imagine going through life without her.
4. Your Hopes for the Future
Musing over your iconic past is fun, but envisioning what your future with her will look like is also what makes for a great love letter to your bride. If you feel like you need some inspiration for this part, do a little investigative journalism. Take a peek at the "marital advice" cards she got at her bridal shower and stowed away in her wedding-planning keepsake box. Or, casually ask the married couples in your families (parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.) about what parts of having a ride-or-die for life are their favorite. And then rework their responses into what you look forward to with your own bride. You could also mention those milestones you can't wait for: going from renters to homeowners, adopting a child, throwing dinner parties and so on.
5. Your Gratitude for Everything They've Done to Put This Day Together
At the end of the day, your bride-to-be has probably thrown her heart and soul into every aspect of planning this wedding (you too, of course, and we're sure she'll be thanking you in her letter as well). Don't forget to say "thank you" for all of the hard work she's put in; it also couldn't hurt to say how well worth it it will all be in the end. You know the last bit of energy she has today will go toward getting dressed up and glam to impress you—so, if you can close with a little: "I can't wait to see you today. You're always gorgeous, but I hear that bride glow is on a whole other level," you'll be golden.
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Pair your love letter with a wedding day gift.
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End your sweet inscription with one other thing you've been dreaming about: your wedding night. Bonus points if it comes with some newlywed lingerie.
Send it over with your bride's favorite caffeine fix or a Dirty Shirley (because bellinis are nice, but you know vodka's her favorite).
Letter to Your Bride on the Wedding Day Example
Okay, so you've been schooled on how to craft incredibly cry-worthy wedding morning correspondence to your bride, but how do the tips all come together? Check out this sample wedding letter to your wife we whipped up and, when you're feeling appropriately inspired, start outlining your own wedding-day original.
Hey Pretty Girl,
How are you doing? I know this day has been a long time coming, but we're done with the planning, so today, I just want you to enjoy it all. Don't worry about the flowers (they're perfect), don't worry about the ring bearers (they have fake rings, I promise), don't worry about the first dance (I've been practicing, I won't embarrass you). Everything is perfect (and even if it isn't, we can just do it all over in another 10 years with a vow renewal).
I've tried to let you know just how profound of an influence you've had on me over the last few years, but I'm pretty sure you still have no clue how much I love you. I love how obsessed you are over your glasses. You have seven pairs, in ALL of the colors, and you ask me which style's my favorite all the time. I think I've said they all were at various points in time. I love how excited you get to watch "Top Chef" every Thursday night—we've never perfected any of the dishes we've seen on the show, but you're still game to try as a super fan. It's very cute, I have to say. P.S. You think I knew you were the one on our 12th date, when we saw the Yankees play The A's, and you recalled all the highlights on the subway ride home, but it was actually on our third date. You randomly threw a penny on the ground and, when I asked you about it, you said that you do that every time you have extra change, so that whoever picks it up can have good luck for the day. That's who you are.
I'm so psyched to call you my wife, but in my head, you've been my forever since the very beginning. God, I love you. You're going to look like an angel today and I can only hope to measure up. I know our future is going to be awesome. We've done everything as a team for as long as I can remember and I think that's how we'll get things done from here on out. Today: newlyweds. Tomorrow: puppy parents. And one day: homeowners.
Thank you for making this day the best reflection of us as a couple. People are going to be talking about this wedding for years.
See you in a few! All my love,
Your soon-to-be [Husband/Wife/Spouse]
