10 Wedding Questions You Didn't Know to Ask

Here's what to do about all the details you're too busy to think of.
by Caitlin Moscatello

Between venue tours and menu tastings you've got a lot on your plate. With a packed schedule like that it's easy to let small details fall through the cracks or forget to ask about obscure logistics. Trust us: You can handle any potential curveball that might happen at your wedding, so don't stress. But if you want to be an overachiever and study in advance, here are a few day-of questions we hear the most frequently.  

  1. Who lifts my veil?

    Wedding veil tips during the ceremony
    photo by BohemiaDelMar

    Modern veil styles (hello, flower crowns) have been rewriting this rule, but for a traditional veil style that's draped over your face, there are two options. One is your dad lifts the veil when he gives you away, "revealing" you to the groom. The other is for the groom to lift the veil just before the kiss.

  2. What side are we supposed to stand on during the ceremony?

    Ceremony tips for the couple and guest seating
    photo by Mango Studios

    If you're in a church facing the altar, the bride stands on the left side and the groom on the right. Guests of the bride and groom should follow suit, sitting on the side of whoever they know best or are related to (hint: tell mutual friends to sit on the side that has less people). For Jewish ceremonies, it's the opposite. Many couples also opt for free seating, telling people to seat themselves wherever they please.

  3. What exactly do the bride and groom do during the cake cutting?

    Wedding cake cutting tips
    photo by Nicole Marie Photography, LLC

    The cake cutting typically takes place after dinner. Draw attention to the event by asking your bandleader or DJ to make an announcement (you can also do this). If you have older guests who might be leaving early, do your cake cutting at the beginning of the reception or soon after dinner. Hold your cake cutting tool of choice together and cut into the bottom layer of the cake. You don't need a perfect slice, but enough to give each other a bite. Enjoy!

  4. How should our wedding party travel to the reception?

    Wedding transportation tips
    photo by Jacqueline Patton Photography

    We bet you and your groom planned a perfect ceremony exit where you hop into a vintage hot rod and ride off to the reception. That sounds great, but yes, you're responsible for getting your wedding party there too. If you're going casual and want them to simply drive over, let everyone know this beforehand so they can carpool. Otherwise, organize some transportation ahead of time.

  5. Where do I put my engagement ring during the ceremony?

    What to do with your engagement ring during the ceremony
    photo by Joanna Tano Photography

    Wear the ring on your right hand or have someone hold it for you. If you want to wear your engagement ring for the reception, you can put it on after the ceremony. For Jewish weddings, it's fine to wear your engagement ring and then exchange stone-free wedding bands if you want to keep with tradition. Also remember: The band is usually worn closest to your heart on your left hand.

  6. Do I really need someone to hold my dress in the bathroom?

    Tips for wedding dress wear during the reception
    photo by Clay Austin Photography

    This depends on the dress. If you're wearing a full-length ball gown, you'll probably need an extra set of hands to help hold up the skirt while you do your thing. Trust us—the cost versus the benefit on this is a no-brainer. But if you're sporting a silk sheath and a group bathroom trip makes you cringe, go ahead and handle your own business. 

  7. Is there an appropriate way to kiss at the ceremony?

    Wedding ceremony kissing etiquette
    photo by Sea Light Studios

    Remember the proposal, when you saw the ring and felt all the emotions and then you started making out like maniacs? Yeah, don't do that. But your first kiss as a married couple doesn't have to be just a peck either. Do what comes naturally, as long as it doesn't involve visible tongue and last more than 10 seconds. 

  8. When should I take off my veil after the ceremony?

    Wedding veil tips for the ceremony and reception
    photo by Photo by Basia

    Everyone loves to talk about the veil, but nobody tells you exactly when to ditch it. While it's perfectly okay to wear the veil for the entire reception, there are two optimal times to take it off. The first is after the ceremony (have your hairstylist show a bridesmaid how to do this without messing up your 'do), and the second is after the first dance while your guests are eating. Once the veil's off, stick it in your bridal suite or have it "decorate" your chair.

  9. What's the best way to greet guests if I don't want a receiving line?

    How to greet wedding guests without a receiving line
    photo by Emily Jean Images

    We get it—you don't want to stand around after the ceremony in an assembly line. Instead, greet your guests during the reception by going from table to table during the first course. Just make sure you have time to eat too! Also, make a short speech thanking guests for coming and give a shout-out to vendors and parents (or anyone else who helped pay for your wedding!). While this moment with the mic shouldn't take the place of personal interaction with guests, it can be a great forum to let them know how much their support means to you.

  10. Can I take my shoes off at any time during the reception?

    Bridal shoe tips and etiquette
    photo by Powers Photography Studios

    We've all been to weddings where guests cut loose on the dance floor and ditch the heels. However, the thought of stepping on something sharp (or getting stepped on by a stiletto) and risking an injury early on in the night is a little too much for us to endorse going barefoot. Instead, bring a pair of flats for dancing or some fancy sneakers. If you're getting married in the summer, have baskets of flip-flops in your wedding colors for your guests to slip into before they get down.

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